Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Day 7

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" - Jesus

I have thought about this for the past few days as I have been on the other side of words.  I don't think I have been alone as I know many friends and family members over my lifetime who have been ridiculed by another.  I have experienced being called fat, stupid and ugly in my life.  Growing up, I believed what I heard and have lived a large portion of my life either trying to prove these words wrong or trying to come to terms why another human being would try to hurt another human being.  In kindness to myself, I have tried to make sense of this over the past few days.  I had already came to terms with one person, my father, a long time ago.  Prior to his death, he asked me if he was a good father.  I told him "yes" as he had done the best he could with a limited up bringing himself.  I have been thinking of this over the past few days as I have been thinking of meaning of words.  Sometimes, I think that our words can become sharper than knives cutting into the flesh to cause pain.  Religions talk about this especially some eastern thought.  Words can bring us together or separate us for life.  Today, I have tried to be more thoughtful with my words and hope that I can continue to do so.  I had someone tell me that why should she be upset by what I said or what she said.  At that time, I tried to explain something I said, as I did not want her to perceive it in a different way than what I meant, which could be hurtful.  She had the habit of saying what was on her mind which did cause people to get upset and at times could cause strong emotions to flair up.   I don't agree.  The Dalai Lama talks a lot about the importance of words as does Thumper.  "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."

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